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Let's talk about Elliot's sex life a little, because why shouldn't we over-obsess on a fictional character's sex life?
BUT.
We know Elliot married Kathy when he was 17. I think it is fair to say that they were each others' firsts, seeing how he is Catholic and was probably a nice guy. I don't see him as a guy who would have slept around in high school, but even more, I don't see Kathy as a girl who would have dated the guy who slept around in high school. So in my mind, they were each others' firsts.
I also think it is safe to say that Elliot was faithful to Kathy. He MAY have had sex with someone else when he was separated, but if he did, it was probably one night stand. And to be honest, I don't see him as the guy who would immediately go out and have one night stands, especially if he was not over Kathy at the time (which can be argued). Yes he hit on Dani, but let's face it: that was a pretty awkward and clumsy attempt to hit on someone, and I'm not sure if anything more happened between them. He seemed to genuinely care about Dani, but there was no chemistry, which just proves that he would have been more focused on being there for her than on getting her into bed. To me, him approaching Dani was more about him trying out dating again - with a person who was conveniently there already, and whom he liked, but nothing more. Just like someone who came out of a very long and first relationship, who never really dated, who never actually CHOSE which woman he wanted to be with, might do.
Anyway, I am trying to make a point here, and that point is that it is entirely possible that Elliot had never had sex with anyone but Kathy when she dies. Flutura's comment about their encounter also seems to indicate this.
And while that doesn't mean that he is bad in bed, it certainly means he is inexperienced. And, like in any long-term relationship, married sex often becomes predictable. Not bad, maybe even good - just not terribly exciting. Or do we really think Elliot and Kathy had time to experience much what with five kids and everything?
I would love to see more fics that acknowledge his sexual inexperience. I've seen a few here and there, but it's rare. I mean, he can still be absolutely fantastic in bed (yes, yes, so much yes), but I want to know what it is like for him, to suddenly, after 40 years, have sex with someone else. To have to wonder again, what does she like, will I be able to please her? To have to get used to someone else's touch. To maybe discover some things he has never explored in his marriage.
Please let me know what you think, and if you have any fic recs, I'd appreciate it.
PS: I originally posted this on tumblr, but nobody wants to speak with me on tumblr. Not that this is any different here.
I miss fandom. *sigh*
I have read the majority of the explicit rated E&O on AO3 by now, and I think there is a certain consensus among E&O writers that Elliot is fantastic in bed. I agree. I mean, look at him.
BUT.
We know Elliot married Kathy when he was 17. I think it is fair to say that they were each others' firsts, seeing how he is Catholic and was probably a nice guy. I don't see him as a guy who would have slept around in high school, but even more, I don't see Kathy as a girl who would have dated the guy who slept around in high school. So in my mind, they were each others' firsts.
I also think it is safe to say that Elliot was faithful to Kathy. He MAY have had sex with someone else when he was separated, but if he did, it was probably one night stand. And to be honest, I don't see him as the guy who would immediately go out and have one night stands, especially if he was not over Kathy at the time (which can be argued). Yes he hit on Dani, but let's face it: that was a pretty awkward and clumsy attempt to hit on someone, and I'm not sure if anything more happened between them. He seemed to genuinely care about Dani, but there was no chemistry, which just proves that he would have been more focused on being there for her than on getting her into bed. To me, him approaching Dani was more about him trying out dating again - with a person who was conveniently there already, and whom he liked, but nothing more. Just like someone who came out of a very long and first relationship, who never really dated, who never actually CHOSE which woman he wanted to be with, might do.
Anyway, I am trying to make a point here, and that point is that it is entirely possible that Elliot had never had sex with anyone but Kathy when she dies. Flutura's comment about their encounter also seems to indicate this.
And while that doesn't mean that he is bad in bed, it certainly means he is inexperienced. And, like in any long-term relationship, married sex often becomes predictable. Not bad, maybe even good - just not terribly exciting. Or do we really think Elliot and Kathy had time to experience much what with five kids and everything?
I would love to see more fics that acknowledge his sexual inexperience. I've seen a few here and there, but it's rare. I mean, he can still be absolutely fantastic in bed (yes, yes, so much yes), but I want to know what it is like for him, to suddenly, after 40 years, have sex with someone else. To have to wonder again, what does she like, will I be able to please her? To have to get used to someone else's touch. To maybe discover some things he has never explored in his marriage.
Please let me know what you think, and if you have any fic recs, I'd appreciate it.
PS: I originally posted this on tumblr, but nobody wants to speak with me on tumblr. Not that this is any different here.
I miss fandom. *sigh*